Mindless Chatter

Everyone, whether they like to admit it, has had or wanted a fuck buddy.  It’s a very simple concept: you get horny, you give them a call, you spend a night of passion and lovemaking together, and the next day you trot off as if nothing happened.  Perfect type of relationship for a girl who wants to keep her options open.  But is it really?

As females, we seem to have more emotions, hormonal issues ect. that keep us mentally attached to men we sleep with.  They, however, don’t seem to have that problem.  They seem to be able to go out, get smashed, bring any girl who’ll go with them home and screw them without a second thought.  While some women try and do that, in my experience, it doesn’t work the same way.  One night stands won’t leave a lot of women attached, but continuous sexual encounters with the same man is bound to leave an emotional mark.  But what happens with the man doesn’t feel the same way?  We can’t just turn off the emotional attachment we develop over time, and most of the time we end up trying to ignore it, hoping that one day maybe your fuck buddy will one day realize he is meant to be with just you.  Unfortunately, that doesn’t happen a lot, and you either have to realize this and let go, or prepare for heartbreak.

So I ask; are fuck buddies really all they are cracked up to be?

Til Next Time,
xoxo
Me

It seems that many college aged men get somewhat antsy in long term relationships.  If they’re smart, they’ll talk it out or do what they don’t want to: break up.  However, there are the few that feel that they can get their sexual frustrations out on a single girl they think is cute.  They don’t always do that by ushering them quickly into the bedroom though.  Sometimes it’s phone sex.  Other times it’s dirty text messages.  I can understand why they do this; they’re bored with their relationship and they want to see if they can light a fire under another.  To me this is slightly amusing.  But what happens after they realize they actually like their girlfriends?

The mature thing would be to simply apologize and say I’m back with my girlfriend.  But when they add “you were a huge mistake; you’re too easy anyway I don’t want a disease” then we’re getting personal.  Perhaps it is an ego booster similar to turning a girl down with the opposite effect; putting the girl off.  But seriously; at 20-21 years of age any man should be raised to not blatantly say to a girl “I was just kidding; it’d take a paper bag over my head and lots of alcohol to have sex with you” because that’s just rude and crossing over into ridiculous.  Men, or boys actually they really can’t be considered men if they talk like that, who get themselves in too deep tend to backpeddle and try to clean their tracks in any way possible.  But by adding fuel to this already lit fire, they’re creating an explosion in the making.  The simplest solution to this is simple: don’t text a girl you’ve been wanting to sleep with but no longer have the cheating bug that she’s ugly and diseased because it will PROBABLY come back to bite you in the bum.  If any girl has ever been texted with such vulgarity I would personally post both the sexual messages and the rude ones in a very public place where everyone can see him for what he truly is.

But that’s just me   If something like this has happened to you feel free to share!

Til Next Time,
xoxo
Me

Well, it is the day before V-day.  The holiday that women in relationships worry about almost more than their significant other’s own birthdays, and the one that single women loathe most.  On college campuses, it goes without saying that you will see a couple every day being…couple-y and smooching on the lawn, holding hands ect.  As we know, Valentine’s day makes it even worse; all the flowers, the chocolates, all seems nice…but it’s not for you.  It’s for your roommate or your neighbor who has a loving boyfriend.  If you are in one of these situations tomorrow, here’s a couple points of advice:

1) Politely but pointedly remind your roommate that, while you love her and her boyfriends such a good guy (you can white lie), you’d rather not see them going at it on top of the roses and chocolates he has just given her, and especially if the boy has a single, tell her to take it there.

2) Go shopping.  This is what I plan on doing, but that’s mainly because it’s my birthday Thursday.  But either way, retail therapy, even if its on a tight budget is relaxing and allows your mind to not dwell on the fact that you’re single on Valentine’s day, but on the cute new leather boots you bought for a rave next weekend.

3) Mani-Pedis.  If you’re not a shopper, go treat yourself to a manicure pedicure.  You’re still being pampered, and you don’t have to worry about returning the favor in any other way expect monetary payment.

And if all else fails…

4) Drink with your other single girl friends.  Hey, why not you guys can have a few sloshed lifechats with your girls while everyone else is having those romantic dinners and then wake up with a satisfying hangover.  It IS a Saturday night after all

I know this day above all days is when most women like to be in relationships, but remember single girls; you don’t have to have a man to have a good Valentine’s Day.

Until Next Time!

xoxo, Me

It happens to every college woman out there: you’re at a party, you spot an attractive boy, you start up a conversation, flirt a little.  Things are going well when…some other girl comes up and immediately your green monster inside you come out as she tries to get his attention.  It’s a time old story; sometimes you get lucky and sometimes you lose out.  You always feel like you have to compete with all the single attractive women that are out with you.  But there’s something worse, some place deep in the jungle of “girlworld” where only a few people dare to go: and that’s competing with the women who already are in serious relationships.

I was at a party with several decently attractive men, and as a single girl, I brought along one of my friends who had a serious boyfriend to be my “wingwoman”.  That backfired.  Not only did she find it appropriate to show off her tattoo on her ass and her newly flat abs, she also let it slip that she would be willing to cheat on her boyfriend with one of them.  If that wasn’t going too far, all of my embarrassing drunken mess stories seemed to come into the conversation: “oh remember that time that you started throwing up everywhere and it was so embarrassing and I had to take care of you?”  Well, now I remember, so thank you very much for letting the world know my slipups.

What I’d like to be able to understand is why taken women do this to themselves.  You’re in a supposed serious relationship, so shouldn’t you be serious about the guy and not admitting to a bunch of horny single men that you want to cheat on him?  You should realize that if you are consciously continuously having the desire to cheat, that you should either a) break up with the boy or b) realize that you’re going to have your life blow up in your face in the very near future.

I have not been able to hang out with men with this girl since, because, as a single women I want to have nights that I know I don’t have to compete with someone who I really shouldn’t be competing with in the first place.  I want to be able to have a good time as a college girl without worrying that the person I came with is trying to break the Guiness World Record for how many men she can have under her grasp at one time.  Does this make me a bad person?

Most of my blogs won’t usually be this…harsh; I love hearing and experiencing stories that once recounted are hilarious and fun because you can barely remember them.  But hey, what’s life without a little juicy drama?

Til Next Time,
xoxo, Me

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